Sleeping Tips

Compatible Sleeping Positions

It’s February! The month of love! So in honor of you love birds (sorry to the lovely singles out there) we will donate this month to tips for sleeping with your partner. This week, we wanted to aid you in the ever-frustrating and often debilitating act of trying to find a compatible sleeping position. Holding each other while you gently fall asleep is great in theory, but as all of us who have attempted it before, we understand that it is not the fairy tale we perceive it to be. Sure, it starts off romantic, but then your partner wants to turn one way, and you want to turn the other, or when you finally fall asleep, your partner moves and wakes you up… the list goes on. What ends up happening is you each seek refuge at opposite end of the bed and most likely one of you will be robbed of the covers.

However, there are some tips and certain positions that can help you and your partner spend this romantic time spooning into morning; or at least keeping the romance.

Tip # 1: the modified spoon
Now spooning is a great way to feel close to your partner, but it is not the most comfortable position in the world. Often after a few minutes your limbs start falling asleep and in the summer months, it gets way too hot to keep up (hot as in temperature people, we keep it PG here). Now one way to keep the intimate romanticism, while maintaining feeling in your limbs, is to try a “modified” spooning position. What to do: the female, or smaller person (the little spoon), will lie on their stomach facing whichever way is more comfortable. Hands are elevated over head, for primal comfort. The other person (the big spoon), lies closely next to the little spoon putting their arm around their partner’s back, meeting with their hand. This way the couple can hold hands and they are still very close, without being suffocated. Your bodies will slightly overlap but both of you will have plenty of breathing room and your limbs will not be squished.

Tip #2 Separate but equal
Now at times, sleeping just needs to be done alone. As much as we all love snuggling, we also have times where we just want to sleep in our own space and not be touched. This is often an issue for new couples beginning to share a bed, because sleeping is so personal and private for so long, that making the transition to share it can be very difficult. If this is your issue, try sleeping face to face, but separate. This way you feel each other’s presence as you drift off into a deep sleep, however, you still have your own personal space. This also gives perfect opportunity to hold hands as you fall asleep which will increase romanticism.

Tip # 3 “Sometimes when we touch..”
Another way to sleep separate yet maintain intimacy, is to each find a satisfying and comfortable position. The romantic nitch is that you two find a place to sustain touch. What we mean is either have your backs, feet or hands touching each other. Feeling that the other person is there will provide the connection of intimacy while keeping comfort and a good night’s sleep.

We hope these tips can help you to get better sleep with your partner and maintain romanticism. The important thing to know is that comfort and sleep are very important and don’t be discouraged by you and your partner’s difference in sleeping styles. By experimenting different positions you will most definitely find one that works for you. However, better sleep leads to a happier you, and a happier you leads to a happier partner. ; )